When we give attention to Doubt, she usually overstays herself and invites her country cousins: Fear and Shame, who invites them boys: Insecurity, Indecision and Stagnation.
These know no boundaries and have no respect of ambitions. They trample our ideas and dance all over our dreams.
Before long, our passions are tattered on the floor no longer resembling how they arrived to us.
But our visions, our goals, our dreams - they must stay protected from doubt, her cousins and all their friends.
If our minds are fertile ground with the ability of being impregnated, they are also able to give birth to the dreams they produce. However, just as the womb is a sacred and protected space, so too are our minds sacred and needing protection.
Within the wrong environment, we can intake poison in the way of our thinking that cross the barrier and harm the budding life (idea) inside. And before long we spontaneously abort our idea because we are now convinced that it is too big for us, or that we are unworthy of it, or that we are unqualified, or that we just…can’t.
Or our idea is still born…meaning that no inspiration or life was breathed into it to manifest our vision.
When our ideas come, we must seek every means of bringing them into fruition. It has become a habit that we raise doubts soon after being hit with a great vision of ourselves. And unfortunately, we are so accustomed to our doubts that we think they require real consideration. We lend more consideration to our doubts than we do to our possibilities. This is a crime we commit to ourselves.
Our dreams are our own possessions to care for and cultivate. We wouldn’t be talked out of tending to and nurturing our own children. We needn’t be talked out of tending to the aspirations developed in our spiritual womb, our mind. And like children, our dreams are both gifts and challenges-rewarding and compelling.
But be aware that doubt gets in the way. It is an interruptor. So we must stay vigilant that we do not be the advocate of our doubts, especially in greater measure than we are of our dreams. If we do, we can remain paralyzed in fear right at the gate of our success, never breaking that barrier.
Sometimes we are doubtful because we’ve never before accomplished the like of our particular goal. That lack of experience is okay; and it actually means we’ve not yet developed bad habits on our journey that we need to later unlearn.
Indeed, the journey to manifest our goals is a personal one but not one that we must undertake alone. There are people who can help us. There are usually others who have accomplished something like what we desire. These people can be our mentors and coaches. We can take classes and trainings, if necessary. Those who have gone before us can serve as great advisors if we are humble. Plus we can learn from mistakes they've already made and save ourselves that time (and money.)
We needn't let our own insecurities and doubt be our roadblocks to our accomplishments. Nor should we allow pride to be our stumbling block.
I teach my children never to deny their dreams and that while others may have similar ideas as them, only they can lend their unique expression to their ideas. No one else can impart their personality into the development of what is in their hearts and minds.
We have been conditioned to be easily discouraged. While we sit on our dreams, we remain only consumers to the dreams of others. If Allah, God, found us sufficient to implant an idea, He would also know we are capable of bringing it forth.
Doubt is like a no good, do nothing friend. Spending too much time with it and we find ourselves hypocrites to that which we dream, love and desire. And before long, we will find ourselves doing all that is in opposition to our dreams and blaming others (or make-believe insufficiency) for never moving forward in a real attempt.
Therefore, let us remain encouraged with what has been laid in our hearts and minds. First appreciate it. Then seek a means to develop the thought into a reality. This is us being creators or gods, children of the Most High God, by bringing something from nothing.
Do not invest in predictions that do not empower us. Stay around those who will be encouraging, even in the darkest hour. Stay away from anyone telling you to be ‘realistic’. No one who accomplished any major achievement did it by being ‘realistic.’ Think big. And eliminate others around you who will not.
You and I are the stewards of our dreams. Know for a surety that there are unlimited possibilities for us. Carefully, navigate the landmines of doubt and fear and dodge the grenades of skepticism tossed by friends and family who neither believe in themselves nor you.
If a person had the capacity to recognize their own potential, they would be able to recognize yours.
Do not be angry at them. These people are deeply conditioned and their conditioning makes them a prisoner in a cell of hesitation, indecision and disbelief. Our best help for them is to go after our own passions and be an example of all that is possible when we do not succumb to doubt.
We must know this. And we must teach this to our children so that they do not cut short their own brilliance because they allowed doubt to rob them of their dreams.
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