"Imitate the person today that you want to become tomorrow."
Many of us day dream about the person we want to become. Successful business owner. Elected official. Graduate student. Social changer and influencer. Marathon runner.
Know that in order to become that person, we must do what that person did and does.
If we want to be an influencer, what do influencers do? How did they achieve a status in which people listen to them? How hard did they work? And what did they sacrifice?
This also applies to other examples. If we dream of one day finishing a marathon, how long do marathoners train? How hard did they work? And what did they sacrifice?
We know that polishing off a half dozen donuts won’t cut it. Surely not.
We must mimic the habits and traits of success.
A successful business owner was someone who started with an idea. They acquired the resources (financial as well as informational) to give birth to their idea. But before they were a successful business owner, more than likely they were a struggling business owner. They had to sacrifice much to grow their business. They endured lean months and possibly years before turning a consistent profit. They hung in without quitting or letting the fear of failure interrupt their journey.
An elected official had to gain recognition and political experience before formally entering the political arena. It is likely he or she started as a campaign volunteer, possibly doing menial tasks like stuffing envelopes, making phone calls or knocking on doors. They had to learn the political landscape and the issues. He would have had to develop social capital garnered by having a committed presence within his community. This entails much sacrifice and enduring severe castigations on his character.
Many of us have the unsavory habit of cheapening the success of others by crediting their accomplishments to luck, cheating or favor. No one rises overnight. In fact there are many ‘overnights’ in which that person put in the work, study, training, investment and energy that we do not see.
Those who put in the work create their own opportunities. They favor sacrifice over play or laziness. They develop tunnel vision for their ultimate desire.
There is no magic to success. And success leaves clues. So in any goal that we seek for ourselves, it is advisable to imitate those who have already achieved what we want to achieve for ourselves.
This is not to say we dissolve our individuality to become a copy cat. No, but we should copy the hustle, tenacity, study and personal investment of those before us required to bring our dreams to life. We do this while infusing our unique personality into the development of our goals.
Curbside dreaming or bar room gossiping about those we secretly admire will not get us what we want from life. Ideas become nothing without movement behind them. There is nothing gained from inactivity except weight and disease.
Sometimes we convince ourselves that our goal is too big for us or unachievable or that success is for other people. Untrue! This is the social conditioning we receive by marketers who want us as consumers instead of creators.
Instead of drenching ourselves in a self defeating mentality, mimic the directed energy, effort and sacrifice of the examples of those whose lifestyles or careers we want to emulate.
I repeat: Success leaves clues!
If we are alert, we will find them. But they are not on the couch, at the bar or on the television screen.
This is an important lesson we should give our children. If they want to make varsity or get into the honor society, point out the characteristics of those who are where they want to be.
There is a trend in these individuals' behavior: consistency, commitment, presence, work ethic and sacrifice. It is never raw talent alone that keeps some at the top. We've seen it repeatedly demonstrated that hard work beats out talent when talent does not work hard.
Conversely, we should also point out the characteristics of others who are not where they want to be and analyze their behavioral trends. There are commonalities here too.
There is no fast track or easy road to anything great that’s worth having. Even diamonds and gold have to be labored for to extract from the earth. No mystery. No magic. Pure work.
Know this for sure- success and achievement will always be possessed by those who work in measure of what they want to receive.
If we do not put movement behind our dreams they will always be visions we’ve seen only in our minds or in others’ lives - but never our own.
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Nurah strives to enlighten, empower and engage her readers with the wealth of knowledge she has gained from her own experiences and those of others from whom she has learned.